Thursday, February 19, 2009
The question that all woman want to know but have never gotten the truthful answer to, WHY DO MEN CHEAT? we always seem to get a water down answer the usual is " It just happened" but really what are the real reasons for it, is it sex? or is it the fact that most of the time they do it and get away with it? and there for it becomes a pattern who's is it ours for finding out that they cheated and yet continue the relationship are we giving them the o.k to do it again? or is it them for being selfish assholes? WHAT DO YOU THINK???????
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In my opinion, it's a combination of things, including the things you have mentioned. For one, they are obviously lacking something in terms of self esteem/self worth. I think some men feel that it is some form of validation if they can get and have multiple women at the same time. Another reason is lack of respect. If someone truly loves you, and is dedicated to the relationship, if SEX is the issue, they should be able to man up and address it with you. Another YES YES and YES again, it's because WOMEN ALLOW THEM TO, and TAKE THEM BACK....once you accept it and take them back, if you truly haven't addressed the real issue as to WHY, that just gives them more leverage to keep at it and try to get away with it....There are also WAY too many scandalous females out there that also have no self respect and/or decency that don't mind sleeping with and trying to take other womens men. The fact that this type of female is readily accessible to the cheating type is also a HUGE PROBLEM...but at the end of the day it falls back on the man, and his respect for not only himself, and you, but the relationship as well.....
Just my thoughts :)
Study's state that man cheat because they feel emotional disconnection.Specifically a sense of feeling underappreciated by woman.Is this a realistic statement in the sense that man don't like to show any emotion towards woman.For example man say they don't cry, like get real we all get hurt at some point and time to show emotion. Study's also show that man cheat because other woman make them feel better about themselves.
This same question I asked men from all walks of life different races to age and lifestyles some of the answers that I got were shocking and some were down right dumb.Most claimed they do it because they just wanted to do it, but there was no feeling attached (in some cases)some said it was not for sex which a shock because most of them said that (I was like then what the hell is that about??)but some said it was and because they were not happy emotionally in there relationship but yet some said they were happy the way I see it thy sound like they are confused and they themselves did not even know the reason why thy did to begin with. The most dumb excuse of them all was they only do it when there girl was on there period (I was like you mean to tell me that you can't keep your dick in your pants for 7 days max???) that's just ridiculous.
The way I see it, it's a combo of both men and women to be blamed the men for the most part, because they have no self control or respect for themselves or there girl, you wonder if some of them forget that they have mothers,sisters and daughters and the word KARMA. I believe some do it so they can look like a playa/gyalist to there peers as well as there own personal egos which I think is pathetic and some of these guys think that it is the norm and it's o.k to do it cause they are men (oooh please dumb ass), but us woman are no better we don't tell them to do it but we know they are doing and sit back and allow it by taking them back saying to your self " he won't do it again" but knowing he will. Should we waste our times and life to take them back?? do we really love them more then we love ourselves??? cause if we turned the tables around and did that to them you better know that love or no love they would leave our ass in a heartbeat!
Then there is the woman that engage in this love triangle that know that he is in a relationship and yet still push them self deeper in the mess like it gives them self glory to know that the are mashing up another womans life playing 2nd fiddle knowing that after he fucks you he is gone home to the 1 does it make the girl feel better (no) so why do it? because at the end of the day us woman are always getting the end of the stick meanwhile the men are holding it.
I think that us woman should love our self more than a man and stop taking shit, we are worth so much more, and the woman that engage in it should not put them self in that situation either, the lies and 2 min of sex aint worth the hurt that you feel as well not spending time with the 1 you love but that loves someone else. The birthdays family functions and special holidays aint so special when you are being tossed to the side and spending it by your self. So when you think you are hurting the 1(meaning the girl) you just hurting yourself.
P.S NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS!!!!
guys are doge like how I see it and they will never change I give up wasting my time waiting on them to change!
I agree with the comments but I feel it is womans faults they do let them get away with murder might as well we tell them to go and fuck they are going to do it anyways and get away with it they always win in the end (god can't live with them cant live without them)
This is a discussion that will be on going forever. Men view SEX differently then women (although these days women are just as triffling as men.
For men SEX is just the act of busting a NUT....if it was good yes it will be ongoing until he gets bored or the other women wants more.
Men don't get so easily wrapped up in the emotional shit that women do....most likely the person he is cheating with is not significant to him.
Remember they do say that men have sex on the brain most of the time and if his "woman" is not around and there is someone else there 9 out of 10 times it will lead to him cheating.
Also there are women out there that lure men into cheating....awww shit basically it comes down to they are going to do what they want anyways.....As a woman just know what your willing to put with and don't let anyone try and play you for a fool.
Well moni ..... I have to agree on what you said. You gave all the right reasons why BOY'S aka MEN cheat ! And o yes I highly agree with you on the blam is also on GIRLS aka WOMEN who take these BOY'S aka MEN back ! I also believe that BOY'S aka MEN cheat because they want to be noticed ( as if they don't already stand out with all the other dumb ... Read Moreshit that they do )anyways the point is men are like babies they need to be held, fed, played with and also changed cause God knows they are full of SHIT ! Unless you are one of the lucky ones ( like myself and moni ) never settle ladies you are worth more than that !
well my opinion, is if he ( a man )cheats on you then he dosent really love you because he she should love you even if you guys arent pysicaly or emotionaly bonding he should learn that a lady is very emotional and sensitive or maybe its a way of showing there emoitions study dose show that, that is the resone why .. well what more is there to say .
I am that girl that will take him away frm a nother girl I dont give a shit if it is good he wont stray
LOVE is without question life's greatest experience. Love is Whimsical and Temperamental, Its nature is Ephemeral and Transitory, It comes when it Pleases and goes away without Warning.
Cherish and Enjoy while it Remains, but spend no Time worrying about its Departure
There is Benefit in every LOVE Experience, Except to the person who becomes Cynical when LOVE departs. The Subconscious mind sometimes Confuse the Emotions of LOVE and SEX
The Major Difference between the Emotion of LOVE and SEX. LOVE is SPIRITUAL and SEX is BIOLOGICAL.
SOME OF THE REASONS WHY MAN CHEAT.
Here Are the Top 10 Reasons Why Men Cheat:
1. Because they had the option. The old saying “men are only as faithful as their options” can sometimes ring true. Men don’t get offered sex as often as women so when the opportunity does arise, it can be very difficult for them to turn it down.
2. It boosts their ego. Sometimes men no longer feel like they are attractive to the opposite sex and when a woman shows some interest, not only does a man react, he may allow her to stroke his ego and more. There is nothing like the thrill of the chase to men on the hunt. When they are finally rewarded for their efforts, their egos swell even larger.
3. You grow apart. Maybe the two of you didn’t have as much in common as you thought. He’s met a woman who has more in common with him. He may check out if he is compatible with her under the sheets also.
4. You argue a lot. Men will sometimes cheat to get away from an overly critical or argumentative partner. Who wants to be around someone who is constantly on them about something.
5. They have fallen out of love. Sometimes men become so comfortable in a relationship, they don’t know how to get out. They may be staying in the relationship because of children or financial reasons. However, they feel like they are missing out on love and may seek it out elsewhere. In their mind, this is as close to win-win as they can get.
6. Your sex life stinks. If a man has a disinterested partner or isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your sex life from becoming boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not try.
7. To get revenge. A man will sometimes cheat if he finds out his partner was cheating on him. How else is he supposed to heal those hurt feelings of his but through good old-fashioned sex?
8. It’s new, different and exciting. Some men get tired of having steak for dinner every night and want to try a hamburger. The same goes for sex with a woman. That’s why men don’t necessarily always cheat with women who are more attractive than their partners.
9. To see if they can get away with it. If a man has the attitude of “what she doesn’t know, won’t hurt her,” he may cheat to see if he is sneaky and smart enough to get away with it. However, with all the advancement in surveillance spy ware, getting caught has now become easier than ever.
10. Because you have allowed it in the past. If you have forgiven a cheating man a couple of times, they are more than likely going to cheat again because they already know if they plead enough, you will forgive them.
Reasons why men cheat can be more complex than the above list or even be a combination of a few different reasons. Nevertheless, no reason is good enough reason to lie and be dishonest. After all, Karma can be a bitch.
IT'S ALOT OF WOMENS FAULT TO ME IF THEY HAD SELF PRIDE THEY WOULD NOT TALK TO A GUY WHO IS IN A RELATIONSHIP CAUSE GIRLS NO WHEN THEY ARE SHARING A MAN AND YET IT COMING LIKE THEY LOVE IT JUST TO SAY THEY HAVE MAN EVEN IF ITS PEOPLES MAN. JUST SLACK
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